Threedom

How many children a family has is sometimes not a decision that they get to make. Heartbreaking infertility, loss, dreams never forgotten. But often the family does have a choice to make and it's one that can be torturous and endless. How many children should we have?

How many is the right number for us?

In my experience, you know when you know. We didn't feel 'finished' after Maxi or Cappers, but after The Badoo, we were done. It was just a knowing inside that three was the right number for us and we've never waivered, never thought four could have been it. Or, whoops, two.

Three is a classic number of children. The oldest, the middle and the youngest. For anyone wondering if three is the right number for them, remember that there's always a third wheel there. Always a trike, never graduating to the big bike. We parents are outnumbered and there is always one who won't fit on the lap. Three means you might have to have your children really close together in age. Three is a little bit more chaotic than two and less neat than four. Three is sometimes being left out.

When I had a boy first and a girl second, I was pleased as punch that a third meant that one of my children would experience a same-sex sibling relationship. And overjoyed when it was sisters. Sorry, Maxi-Taxi, I have no experience of being a brother but I do know that sisters can be the key to a lifelong treasure chest.

Yes, Three is a gang. Three is balanced. Three is having a spare when a sibling relationship sours. Three is an extra person to ask for advice. Three is one to hold each hand.

Three says I. Love. You.

How many children do you have? Was it a decision you got to make? What's the best thing about your number for your family?
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